Sunday, March 24, 2013

Can you still feel the butterflies?

I found the following information while "stumbling" today. It's from Psychology today and I love it all. Sometimes every relationship needs a little pick me up.

  1. Thinking positively about your partner. Having positive thoughts about your partner means that you focus on the good, not the bad, in your partner’s personal qualities and character. Ruminating about the things that bother you can only lead you to magnify the small foibles which will make your partner even more irritating to you than you would otherwise feel.  People in good relationships engage in “sentiment override,” meaning that they remember more of the favorable than the unfavorable experiences they’ve shared together.
  2. Thinking about your partner when apart. When you leave your partner for the day, the evening, or for an extended period of time, do you forget about his or her existence? Is it out of sight and out of mind for you? If so, this may be a sign that you’re not that much in love. You don’t have to spend every second apart sighing longingly, but the fact that your partner isn’t there should at least cross your mind some of the time during the course of the average day.
  3. Difficulty concentrating on other things when thinking about your partner. If you’re able to set aside your thoughts about your partner without much effort, this suggests that your partner takes up only a small amount of cognitive load.  Multitasking isn’t particularly desirable when it comes to musing over your loved one. In the O'Leary study, this factor was particularly important for men.
  4. Enjoying novel and challenging activities. Like definitely attracts like when it comes to personal interests and hobbies. Spending time together is important, as you’ll see below, but it’s how you spend your time that influences your relationship satisfaction even more. Aron’s self-expansion model, tested in empirical research, suggests that couples can improve their love for each other when they spend their time together exploring new and challenging activities. The O'Leary study identified this factor as especially relevant for men. If you’re going to go bungee jumping for the first time, your relationship will benefit when you and your partner face this challenge together. If you’re not up to bungee jumping, seek out mentally challenging ways to spice up your daily routines. 
  5. Spending time together. If you love someone, you want to spend time with that person, and the more time you spend together, the more your love will grow. The time you spend should include some new and challenging activities, as shown in point #4. However, even spending time together in mundane household activities can enhance your love's intensity. That basement remodeling you’ve been intending to get started can actually become a way for you and your partner to strengthen your emotional bonds. Cooking, gardening, grocery shopping, and even cleaning the house are other ways to bolster your love for each other. This was another factor that, in the O'Leary study, was more important for men.
  6. Expressing affection. Feeling love toward your partner is important, but so is expressing that love in physical ways. It’s not wise to play hard to get when your goal is to build the passion in your relationship. The affection you show doesn’t have to be elaborate or overly gushy. A touch on the shoulder or kiss on the cheek is enough to build your relationship’s intensity. 
  7. Being turned on by your partner. Those tiny touches of affection can not only boost your emotional connection to your partner, but also stoke the sexual fires within. The respondents reporting the most intense love for their partner in the O’Leary study said that they felt their bodies responding when their partner touched them. This doesn’t mean a full-out sexual encounter has to follow from that touch on the cheek. Feeling a warm, tingling sensation from your partner’s physical presence is enough to keep the fire inside stoked until the time is right for sexual activity.
  8. Engaging in sexual intercourse. It should come as no surprise that having intercourse is a positive expression of a love’s intensity. People in love are more likely to have sex with each other on a regular basis. The O’Leary study showed, however, that part of the reason for the positive association between sex and love is that people who are happiest in their relationships both love their partners more and have sex more frequently. Whatever the cause, the point is that sexual activity builds and maintains feelings of love and even happiness that endure over time. 
  9. Feeling generally happy. People who feel happier about life also have stronger feelings of love toward their partners. We can’t determine whether people who are in love therefore feel happier or vice versa from the survey data in the O’Leary study (and the finding was more true of women than men). However, the finding suggests that if you’re experiencing personal distress, this can leak out and cause your relationship to suffer. Similarly, if your relationship is in trouble, your personal happiness will suffer as well. Either way, it's important for you to seek help before these negative effects take a heavy toll on your mental health.
  10. Wanting to know where your partner is at all times. Being intensely in love, for men, is associated with wanting to know your partner’s whereabouts. This component of intense love may seem a bit like stalking. But to put a positive spin on it, if you want to know where your partner is, this reflects the fact that your partner isn't very far from your thoughts.  
  11. Obsessively thinking about your partner. Being slightly obsessed with your partner turns out to be positively related to intense love, at least for women. The women most in love in the O’Leary study didn’t particularly care about knowing their partner’s whereabouts. However, they were more likely to engage in obsessive thinking about their partner more generally.
  12. Having a strong passion for life. People who approach their daily lives with zest and strong emotion seem to carry these intense feelings over to their love life as well. If you want your relationship to have passion, put that emotional energy to work in your hobbies, interests, and even your political  activities. Your brain's reward centers respond similarly to love as to getting excited about your other daily interests.Getting "fired up" in these areas of life translates into firing up the feelings you have toward your partner and in the O'Leary study seemed to matter more for men.

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Yes Please!

So I am STILL dealing with my sinus infection, fun fun fun. But I had a very pleasant find at CVS today.... I'm sure some of you saw my post earlier this month letting you know about my Influenster Sweet Heart Vox Box. My favorite product from that box is the Olay Fresh Effects System, the more I use it the more I LOVE it. My skin is changing for the better and I am left a lot less oily (in my T-Zone!). Well today I stopped by CVS and found these:
This was the first time I had seen the fresh effects products in stores! Normally these tubes are $7.99 each, but they were on sale for $3.99 each! So I bought two of the Bead Me Up and Shine Shine Go Away. Both are cleansers and can be used with my fresh effects system brush (or without it). The Shine Shine Go Away is what I received in my box, so I am excited to try out the bead me up!

So If you are in need of a new skin cleansing routine or product I would suggest RUNNING to a local CVS and seeing if you can find this deal! I love it! Thank you Influenster for introducing me to this product!

Friday, March 15, 2013

Friday Funny

I am suffering from my 6th sinus infection in the past year currently. This is also the weekend of my 3 year anniversary, so I'm trying to kick this infections butt! Thank you vitamin C and Elderberry syrup.

The puppy is your Happy Friday.

Friday, March 8, 2013

Dear Bethenny Frankel

Thank you for creating Skinnygirl! Sincerely, Me.

But on a serious note, I was recently given the opportunity to try out this Skinnygirl daily on the go bar. I was so excited to see this product in my sweet heart vox box from influenster as I am a big fan of Skinnygirl Margarita's, however I was a little disappointed when I saw the flavor. Coco-nut... Coco-nut.... I hate coconut... But Ms. Frankel wouldn't steer me wrong would she?! No she definitely wouldn't. I decided to try the bar and I was in love immediately. The coconut flavor was mild enough and mixed with peanut butter it was SO DELICIOUS! I went straight online to to see how I could order more! I am so in love with these bars, the only down side for me was the price. Being a one income family these are a little pricey but if you think of it as a meal replacement it's not as bad. I would definitely recommend trying these out for anyone who has a sweet tooth but is still trying to stay healthy! They also have Banana Oatmeal Dark Chocolate, Dark Chocolate Multi Grain Pretzel and Greek Yogurt Blueberry crisp flavors! Yum Yum Yum!

Monday, March 4, 2013

Motivation Monday

Have a case of the Mondays? I sure do this week. Let's turn it around and have a great week. What do you do to keep motivated? What are some of your favorite motivational sayings? I would love to hear from some of you and feature some of your favorite quotes. Leave a comment on this post and I will pick some of them to use as my motivation Monday quotes (and I will give you credit)!

Friday, March 1, 2013

Fresh Face Friday

So while my son is refusing to go to sleep, I decided I will update you on my recent trial of Olay Fresh Effects courtesy of my Influenster Vox Box!

I have been trying so hard lately to get into a good face washing routine, especially since summer is coming up. However, I've been having such a hard time finding a product I like, I've tried everything from brands such as Lush to Target's generic brand. So, I was pretty happy to find this in my vox box. The little tool you see on the right is the actually massaging cleanser- and it vibrates REALLY strong, but it feels great on your face. It's very simple and it left my face feeling SO SO SO soft the next day, I am so impressed. This is by far my favorite product out of my Vox Box so far, it's one I will be repurchasing when I am done.

Love love love this, thank you Olay and Influenster.